Tuesday, 29 October 2013

Association of Post Natal Illnesses

When i was at The baby Show in London, I also came across a stand promoting a charity called Association of Post Natal Illnesses. It was so great to see a stand there showing the other, darker side of parenting. You wait 9 months for this beautiful bundle of joy and when he/she arrives and you don't bond, its the worst feeling in the world. You feel so lonely and you feel too scared to tell anyone for fear of being a failure as a parent.

The association of Post Natal Illnesses was set up by Clare Delpech in 1979 after she was diagnosed with PND.She set up a self help group and it went from there. It became a charity and has helped thousands of people since.

They have many different ways to be contacted

020 7386 0868
The office is manned monday - friday between 10am and 2pm

The illness can be really hard on the families and friends supporting a lady with PND, So here if a bit of advice for those people too

(Partner, Parents, Friends, etc.)
1 Do try to give her as much practical help as possible. Depression makes a sufferer feel
extremely tired and small tasks feel like huge ones.
2 Do try to let the mother express her own feelings of anxiety and fear, even if she repeats
3 Do allow the mother to talk freely and express her innermost fears without showing
shock or amazement.
4 Do show consideration and sympathy for her in her predicament. Reassure her that she
will recover, repeat this reassurance as often as you can.
5 Do encourage her to have as much rest as possible.
6 Do encourage and praise when the mother makes an effort.
7 Do encourage her to seek professional help, if she has not already done so.
8 Do try to get out together, but never force the mother to do anything she doesn't feel up
to doing.
9 Don't nag. Try to keep your patience even though it may be taxed.
10 Don't point out shortcomings, unfinished jobs, unkempt appearance.
11 Don't say 'Pull yourself together. You don't know how lucky you are. There are lots
worse off than you.'
12 Don't leave her alone with baby if you feel there is the slightest possibility of her doing
harm to the child or herself.
13 Don't expect the sufferer to have fears and worries that you feel are reasonable. When
you are depressed quite small things can worry or upset you greatly.
14 Don't try to cope alone. You may find the present situation exhausting and stressful.
Do talk about your own feelings as much as possible but not to your partner, and accept
any offers of help from other.
15 To partners: Remember she is still your wife/girlfriend, not just the mother to a child.
They also supply leaflets to help and offer some comfort to the ladies going through this tough time in their lives.



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