Although I suffer from cyclothymia (a mild form of bipolar)and anxiety, mental health problems come in all shapes and sizes, if you have a few of these symptoms, then following some tips in this blog post can help you get back to feeling better.
- Feeling empty, lost or unable to do anything.
- lack of pleasure in all of the activities that you do.
- Dramatic loss in weight
- Unable to sleep or sleeping too much nearly every day.
- Psychomotor changes, this means where you completely slow down or suddenly speed up things. (talking fast or really slow)
- loss of energy nearly every day
- Excessive feelings that you're worthless, unable to do anything positive
- Lack of making decisions and being indecisive every day.
- Thinking about death, suicidal thoughts and harming yourself every day.
Having mental health problems is not the end of the world, sometimes you need to hit rock bottom to find your way up again. The number of times that I have hit that rock bottom, but still come back to fight another day is too many to count. So how do I cope with my mental health?
Get out more - when we are feeling depressed, its a struggle to get out of bed and the thought of leaving the house can be horrifying. But if you do it, you will feel so much better, you don't need to go far or do anything special. Go and sit on the beach or in the garden, this gives you something different to focus on. Often when we are indoors and feeling depressed, the black cloud that we have over us, suddenly covers the whole house and makes it all seem so depressing. Getting out means you leave that whole black cloud area.
Counselling - This is possibly the most important one for someone suffering from mental health problems or depression. We often feel like there is nowhere to turn, we don't want to hurt our loved ones and we don't want to burden them with the worries that are going around in our head. There are so many benefits from counselling, from having that time every week to discuss your problems openly with a counsellor who will understand and has been trained to a high level to empathise with you whilst finding ways to work through your problems together. The session will also give you time to confront your problems, demons or scary moments without feeling judged. Counselling sessions work as a place to show your emotions and know that someone is there to understand and care about how you're feeling and sharing your problems in a counselling session means you can look forward to the future, knowing that you can find ways to cope with the bad days. Talking to someone means that you're offloading everything in your head and suddenly everything seems so clear again. We often have so many worries going on in our head that it all seems to be going round and round. Speaking to a counsellor will instantly lift your mood and your spirits because you feel like you're ready to fight the depression again. Unfortunately, with the NHS, there is a huge waiting list for people awaiting counselling so you can always find alternatives yourself and have an appointment much sooner. You can often find counsellors near you, online. Remember, a problem shared is a problem halved!
Mindset - When I was first diagnosed with severe PND after I had Tilly, I was stuck in the mindset of negativity, I really couldn't see the light and I thought that suicide was my only option. It turns out that it wasn't! I saw a psychiatrist and he helped to change my mindset, but I fought him the whole way, it wasn't until I was ready to change my mindset that I started to change it. The person I credit with this is Rebecca Adams, we became social media friends after meeting at a friends house and she is such a positive person in her life and that radiates out to everyone that knows her. She posts positive comments and phrases and although you might only briefly see them as you scroll through on your phone, the quotes and phrases stay in your mind. Rebecca is now hosting Ignite, an international event in Bath in September where she has managed to get lots of inspirational people together to talk to you about how can motivate yourself, inspire yourself and gain confidence to see the world as a more positive place and face everything head on. Everybody needs a Rebecca Adams in their life! I now make sure that mindset is very much a part of Tilly's life now because we always talk about how beautiful she is, how tough she is and how clever she is. Mindset is all about changing how you feel about yourself.
Mood Food - We can often help ourselves to feel better with the foods that we choose to eat. How many times have you had 'that time of the month' and you crave chocolate? Dark chocolate is believed to contain anti-oxidants that actually lift your spirits, but don't overindulge. Fruit and veg will help to lift your spirits because they are naturally full of vitamins and you feel healthier as you're eating it. Oily fish contains omega 3, which is a key nutrient for lifting our spirits. Our body can't produce omega 3, so eating the oily fish is a fantastic way of getting it into your body. Omega 3 also alters our brain chemicals that are linked to our moods. Low levels of serotonin are linked to depression and suicidal thoughts, while dopamine is a happy chemical that the brain releases in response to pleasurable experiences, such as eating or having sex.
Meditation and mindfulness - stress and daily problems really don't help when you have depression and sometimes it is stress that leads to a full depressive meltdown. Eliminating the stress should help you to cope with the depression a lot easier, making things easier to see. There are a few ways of managing stress like meditation and mindfulness. These help you to see the how the present moment in time can help us to enjoy the world more. It helps us to stand back and notice when the patterns of depression are forming and eventually you will train yourself to realise when your black cloud moments are coming, then you realise they are simply just momentary depressive thoughts, that you can't control and you will soon feel back to normal when they pass. This works really well with Mindset
There are so many ways that you can help yourself to feel better, and I am always available to talk to you and help you to get help. You can message me on my Facebook page, and I will get back to you asap.