I told my husband and he hit the roof. He said that he hadn't wanted the child anymore, despite actually being part of making the child with me. He told me to have an abortion or he would leave me - so I told him to leave. I couldn't choose between my child or my husband, so I chose my child. Was it the right thing to do though?
Should I have tried harder to save my relationship with my husband, especially as we had two kids and another one on the way. I was 22 years old and I had nobody to turn to for advice. It's not the type of thing that I could ever speak to my mum to about, she had never liked my husband anyway and would hate him even more now he had left me. I took advice from other family members, but I knew in my mind that my baby comes first. I wasn't mature enough to deal with this on my own. I didn't know what options to take.
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Yes, a therapist can cost you money because you may need quite a few sessions to get the relationship back on track, but surely your relationship is worth investing in? After all, it can cost a lot more money in the long run if you separate without trying to save your relationship. It cost my husband nearly £30,000 plus £400 a month until the kids turned 18. If only he had been open for therapy!
Do I regret not fighting more for my marriage? Yes! Should I have taken that first step and insisted on going to get some therapy for impartial advice on what could have effectively changed my kids future? Maybe. But whatever way I look at it, I know if we had taken advice from somebody outside of my family and friends network, then maybe we would still be married today.
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