How To Cope With A Break Up When You Share Friends
Last Updated on: 8th May 2024, 12:32 pm
Moving On And Cope With A Break Up
Sometimes moving on is difficult, whether its a break up, loss or other major change. It’s rarely easy unless you’re so glad to get out of a situation that you can’t wait to make changes and move on. A break-up disrupts your whole life. Everything you do and see seems to remind you of your ex. If you had many mutual friends, even going out to keep from going stir crazy can be difficult for you. How will you cope with a break up?
One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when you’re ready to move on is your family and friends. If your ex partner was popular with your family, you’re going to get tired of questions about the break up. There will be many questions about what went wrong. You must explain to them that you’re moving on and the break up is over. You can explain that you don’t want to constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship. Explain that it is painful to keep being reminded and they need to move on like you.
Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with. They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that you’ll get back together. You can just explain that you are moving on and trying to transition into the new person you want to be. Eventually they’ll come around because they’re your family and they love you. It’s probably going to be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends.
When You Shared Friends
If you didn’t have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a problem. But if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is going to seem strange to everyone for a while. And then there’s the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends, too. You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your mutual friends. This doesn’t mean that you drop your friends when you are trying to move on. It’s just simply going to be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over. Eventually it will get easier when you bump into your ex partner, when you’re with friends. Just make sure you never ask your friends to choose between you and your ex partner. That makes you look like an asshole.
As difficult as it seems, when you say that you are moving on, you may have to give up some of those friendships. You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends. Just try to keep good contact and relationships with those friends that you’re closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this can be painful, it’s probably easiest on everyone because they don’t have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid. This puts an end to awkward meeting with your ex partner.
Take A Holiday To Help Cope With A Break Up
Sometimes the moving on period is just too difficult when you’re surrounded by mutual friends and there are so many places to go together. If possible, go on a holiday or weekend break to get away from the same scenery and people. Take a trip with a friend who isn’t involved in break up, or was close to your ex partner. Even a friend of yours who wasn’t friends with your ex partner. This can help you get some perspective. Once you’ve declared you are ready to move on, taking a break can be the fresh start you are looking for. It give you time to make new memories, meet new people and come home refreshed.
