How To Become A Survivor Instead Of A Victim
Last Updated on: 17th September 2024, 08:58 am
Become A Survivor
I’ve been a victim and I’ve been a survivor too. At the same time, I can’t say that I’ll ever again refer to myself as one or the other. Because you see, the two tend to go together. If victimisation doesn’t kill you, you’ll be a survivor. If you don’t survive, you’ll be a victim forever.
The key for me is to strive to be anonymously free of each. Surviving is fine. It keeps you alive, but who wants to spend their lives being identified as, “a survivor?” To me, that sounds as if you’re waiting for a disaster to happen. So that you can survive and be identified by the role. Still, who wants to remain in survival mode?
It Is Your Choice Whether You Are A Victim Or A Survivor
I choose to say that I’m neither a victim, nor am I a survivor because I don’t intend to be victimised by life. I simply strive to find peace of mind all the time, despite any demise that comes up in my life. Don’t get me wrong. Anonymity didn’t come easily for me. It seemed that I was victimised all the time, so becoming a survivor was the goal of my life. If I had a pound for every time I cried, “LIFE’S NOT FAIR,” I’d be too rich to care how unfair life can be. But you see since no one gave me even one Pound, I paid the price, and feeling victimised almost cost my life.
I’ve survived so many things that I’ve come to believe that the law of attraction went into action to bring more for me to survive. That’s why I know it’s true. Thoughts, beliefs and feelings do become, “things,” and since being victimised became my middle name, it identified me and I believe that it was my role as a victim which created an illness. I was branded with my illnesses, which gave me a survival story to tell, and I told it very well. The title would always be, “I’m a survivor of something.” It was as if I was shouting out, “Hey, Universe! Look at me and please bring me something new to survive so that I can keep my identity!”
Tell Your Story To Help Yourself And Others
You see, I told my story so well that the story began to identify me and even tell itself. It wasn’t until, to my surprise, so much time went by that my story got too old to tell and re-tell. It was time for me to get over it and simply be anonymously victim-free. How boring that seemed.
Still, what I didn’t realise is the fact that hanging onto a role created a need that kept me going back and forth from being a victim to becoming a survivor again and again. You can’t be a survivor unless you are striving to survive being victimised. For me, there had to be a demise to survive, so I re-told my story again and again and again and again, until I began to feel like a victim again. The law of attraction went back into action and the illness came back to haunt me, so you see, it’s not wise to hang onto your survival role, or you’ll be surviving things eternally.
You Can Be A Survivor
Surviving seemed to comfort my victimised mind until time went by and to my surprise, I was still alive. My story had been told so many times that I couldn’t remember when or why I became a victim in life. And by then, I was sick and tired of surviving all the time. Believe me, it can be exhausting. Apparently, I’m going to live for as long as I’m alive. And I don’t want to be victimised again, so there’s nothing for me to survive at this time.
Surviving can be a noble thing to do, and that’s why martyrs tend to die. But I think I’ll choose to be a bit more anonymous than martyrs or saints ever are. If I can avoid thoughts and feelings that revolve around victimisation. I’ll continue to survive my life with the peace of mind and I won’t need to be identified by anything but serenity. If I can strive to do that, life will be much easier for me. Don’t you think? After all, anyone still breathing and considered alive has survived. So I’d like to be a bit more unique.
I don’t know why I always survive and I still don’t understand life. But there’s one thing I know for sure. Remission doesn’t mean I’m cured of anything, so instead of calling myself, “a survivor”. I’ll simply remove my illness from my identity completely and say, “Today I remain victim-free, the way God intended me to be.”
